Write a Thank You Note. Use Paper.

In this Relationships UPGRADE, Dawn Wilson writes about something we don’t want to leave behind in our rush into more and more technology.

Don’t get me wrong. I love the ease of Facebook and email. It’s so easy to jot a quick “thank you” to friends and family.

But there’s nothing like a handwritten note. I want to focus on that in this Relationship UPGRADE.

Writing thank you notes isn’t just good for the recipient … it’s good for you!

Lawyer John Kralick’s New Year’s resolution in 2008 was to write one thank you note each day to family members, friends, co-workers, even his Starbucks barista! (His notes are recorded in the book 365 Thank Yous: The Year a Simple Act of Daily Gratitude Changed My Life.)

Kralik says,

“Things we write in cyberspace are so easily deleted and forgotten … buried by the next 30 emails we recieve. In this day and age, a handwritten note is something that people really feel is special.”

I once heard about a mom who kept a precious note in her Bible. She told friends she often read the note – written many years before – because, as she says, “It always encourages me when I think people don’t appreciate me.”

I began writing thank you notes years ago when I traveled with a revival team. Years later, I keep blank cards in my Bible and car. (You might also keep one in your purse. In my purse, it would likely get crushed!)

Kralik’s 10 Tips for writing the “perfect” thank you note are helpful and practical. But I want to share just a few insights – Four Key Words that express what I’ve discovered through the years.

1. FOCUS. It’s not about you.

A thank you note isn’t written to impress someone or win their favor. People can read through that nonsense. Take time before you write to think about the person.

Why are you writing? Is it for a selfless reason? (Philippians 2:4) Is there something in a person’s life you can highlight with praise? (Philippians 4:8)

And consider this: How can your thank you note focus on the Lord too – to glorify God? (1 Corinthians 10:31).

2. TIME. It’s a gift.

It takes just a bit more time, perhaps, to write a handwritten note. You’ll have to gather up a pen and paper or a special card (although Kralik wrote many of his on simple 3 x 5 cards). But treat your note as a special gift.

The recipient will, if he or she chooses, be able to hold it, store it, treasure it. It’s worth your time.

In fact, it’s one wise way to use your time, especially when you are encouraging those who do not know the Lord! (Colossians 4:5)

3. GRATITUDE. It is a “thank you” note, after all.

Allow the gratitude in your heart to pour out onto the paper. Christians have many reasons to be grateful (Ephesians 5:20). God is the ultimate foundation for our grateful spirit. We can learn to see opportunities to express gratitude to Him – in fact, why not write a thank you note to the Lord today and slip it in your Bible? And we can thank others in Jesus’ name (Colossians 3:17).

Don’t think it must be about material things or what a person has done for you. Consider how he or she  has touched your life … an attitude you admire, a character quality that has motivated you, a perspective that changed your mind.

It may be something simple to you, but expressing gratitude for even little things can bless others.

We can give thanks to God in every situation, and it’s a privilege to express our grateful heart to others (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

4. SIMPLICITY. Forget the “flowers,” unless they’re on the card.

While we can aim for a “word fitly spoken” (Proverbs 25:11), keep notes simple.

It’s tempting to get flowery with words, but that’s usually a sign of trying to impress, not to express.

So forget the phoney frills. Consider what you’re grateful for and just say it. Add a simple “blessing” prayer or scripture, when appropriate. 

Aim to encourage (1 Thessalonians 5:11) and “give grace” with your words – especially to those who do not know the Lord (Ephesians 4:29b; Colossians 4:6).

You may never know, this side of heaven, how your note has blessed another soul.

Do you have a treasured thank you note? How did that note encourage you?

Dawn Wilson, founder and President of Heart Choices Ministries, is the creator of three blogs: Heart Choices Today, LOL with God (with Pam Farrel), and Upgrade with Dawn. In these ministries and as President of the San Diego chapter of Network of Evangelical Women in MInistry (NEWIM San Diego), Dawn encourages, edifies and energizes women with  scripture so they can better enjoy life, bless others and honor God. Dawn and her husband Bob have two grown, married sons, three granddaughters and a rascally maltipoo, Roscoe.