How to Stop Being an Adrenaline Junkie Joan Webb’s intentional living so aligns with my desire to make wise choices. I invited her to write this Attitude UPGRADE because she puts her finger on a big issue with so many women. “‘You really love this, don’t you? You’re so animated when you’re busy working.’ Although my client meant this as a compliment,” Joan said, “I gagged when I heard her words. OK. I (Dawn) will get totally honest here. Joan pegged one of my huge struggles. I live with the stress of busyness, and some of it is self-imposed. Oh, how I needed to read this! Maybe you do too. Joan continues . . . To me, my client’s words represented a lifestyle I’d tried to ditch. Anything that reminded me of my excessive behavior felt like a punch in the gut. I get a high when rushing, working and finding solutions. I am an adrenaline junkie. What do I mean by “adrenaline junkie”? Experts say action-addiction is both a process and a substance addiction. We get a high when we over-do, over-rush or even over-help. As long as the chemical keeps flowing, we medicate our past or current distress. Incidentally, some action-addicts appear motionless at times, but their minds are racing. Normally, hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline release when we sense there’s a threat to our well-being. It’s the “Fight or Flight Response,” and it produces a shot of energy, giving us strength to cope with frightening situations. With this response, heart rate escalates, digestion slows and blood flow forces to our muscles. Our bodies return to their natural state of relaxation when the real or perceived threat passes. When we’re addicted to action, we remain in chronic stress-mode, causing damage to our bodies. Initially, symptoms are fairly mild, like chronic headaches and lowered resistance to colds. Eventually we can develop depression, panic attacks, gum disease, unexplained weight gain, diabetes, stomach problems and even heart disease. Who wants THAT? Doctors agree there is a pandemic of action-addiction in our world today. Author Anne Wilson Schaef writes: “What belief have we accepted that suggests that, if we are not rushing and hurrying, we have no meaning?” An often-effective treatment for action-addiction includes identifying and modifying our negative thought patterns. For example, modification of the above misbelief can become: I am a valuable person, even when I quit working and helping to relax. This all reminds me of something the wisest man who ever lived wrote: “Better one handful with tranquility than two handfuls with toil and chasing after the wind” (Ecclesiastes 4:6). When I continually run, chase, rush after stuff—even if it is very good and helpful stuff—I whiz past tranquility in the pursuit. What are some wise, practical things we can do to shake hands with tranquility again? 1. Pause to breathe deeply. Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself time to think and feel again. 2. Pause to enjoy God. Reflect on who you are in Christ! He invites you to come and find rest. (Matthew 11:28-30.) Pray—have an unrushed conversation with the Lord. Soak in His love; meditate on what He’s said. 3. Pause to enjoy yourself … and others (without trying to fix them). Honor who God created you to be. If you’re an introvert, schedule a re-energizing alone-time activity. (Maybe just to soak in a hot tub. Perhaps to enjoy an overnight personal retreat.) If you’re an extrovert, schedule a re-vitalizing activity with friends, uninterrupted by to-dos and work. And repeat these steps at regular intervals! Ahhhh. I can feel my shoulders relaxing and that constant adrenaline surge diminishing. What helps you become friends with tranquility again? Joan C. Webb is a speaker and author who has written thirteen books including The Intentional Woman (co-authored with Carol Travilla), The Relief of Imperfection: For Women Who Try Too Hard to Make It Just Right and a four-book devotional series for children. As a Life Coach who specializes in working with writers and communicators, Joan helps set people free to become who they were designed to be and from what holds them back. For more information about becoming an intentional woman, visit Joan’s website. Attitudes Biblical Thinking Health Self-Care