Tough Choices to Live a Life of Integrity Becky Harling is funny, insightful, and intensely passionate that women learn how to live in emotional and spiritual freedom. In this Character UPGRADE, she writes about the choice to live in integrity. “We’ve all experienced the crushing disappointment of Christian leaders that we’ve admired who have failed morally,” Becky says. “What exactly is a life of integrity and how do we insure that we live a life of integrity and finish well?” I (Dawn) am heartbroken to know of Christian friends in places of leadership who chose sin over a life of integrity; but Becky’s words of warning and encouragement aren’t just for leaders—they are for all of us. Becky continues . . . Steve’s parents came and visited us this past summer. Now near 90, their lives have been marked by steadfast integrity. As a result, the generations after them have been blessed. As I’ve was thinking about how God has used their integrity, I read Psalm 101. In this delightful, short Psalm, David gives us very specific choices we can make to live a life of integrity. Now I have to warn you, some of these choices are TOUGH! Honestly, they go against the grain of our human sinful nature; and at times, they’re downright inconvenient. But, the payoff is the legacy of integrity that’s left for those who are following behind. I know that’s what I want to leave behind. What about you? If you want to leave a legacy of integrity to those coming up behind you here are three choices from Psalm 101 that you can make now! 1. Praise God for His love and goodness continually. “I will sing of your love and justice; to you, Lord, I will sing praise” (Psalm 101:1). The Hebrew word for praise that’s used here speaks to a celebration, praising God with song. Every day should be a celebration of God’s amazing love and goodness, but often that’s not the case, because we focus our thoughts on what we don’t have or what we wish we had. What if you began every day by thanking God and praising Him for His love and goodness in your life? My guess is that you would live a more positive life, and you’d definitely be on your way to a life of integrity. When we focus on God’s love rather than on all the things that go wrong in life, we’re more likely to make positive decisions. We’re not as grumpy and cranky. The next time you’re tempted to complain or gripe about something, shift your focus to God’s faithful love. Watch how your spirit grows more joyful almost instantly. I’ll never forget when my friend, Jill’s, dad was admitted to assisted living. Often during that season of life, folks become cranky and resentful. But not Jill’s dad! When Jill called Ed to ask how he was doing, he responded exuberantly, “Jill! This place is awesome! It’s like a cruise ship. I love it!” Every time, we went to visit Ed, we left encouraged. Even during the last months of his life while he was enduring pain, Ed talked about the goodness of God and nurtured a thankful spirit. I don’t know about you, but that’s the way I want to be, and that means I have to nurture a thankful heart now! 2. Be careful what you set your sights on. “I will not look with approval on anything that is vile” (Psalm 101:3). Immoral choices don’t just happen. They usually start with lustful thoughts that have been nurtured. We need to be careful and exercise a heart of discernment about what we gaze on and fill our minds with. Sometimes even the news is so graphic and argumentative that we need to shut it off. When you’re watching T.V. or a movie, ask yourself, “Is this helping me follow Jesus more closely, or is it creating anxiety, worry, fear or lust in me?” 3. Walk away from gossip and dissention. “Whoever slanders their neighbor in secret, I will put to silence; whoever has haughty eyes and a proud heart, I will not tolerate” (Psalm 101:5). It’s so easy—you’re having coffee with friends, and one friend starts to “share” how frustrated they are with a different acquaintance. They need to process. So you listen, and soon you’re drawn in to something more deadly than just processing a frustration. Here’s the thing: we’re called to not have any part in slander. So, what do you do? You could say something positive and walk away. You could change the topic. Or you could say, “I’m not comfortable cutting that person down. I don’t have all the facts, and I don’t want to be guilty of gossip.” Friend, these are sometimes hard choices. It may seem that they’re not very big choices, and what do they really matter? But they DO matter. By making choices after God’s own heart, one choice after another, you’ll be building a life of integrity. Which of the three tough choices do you struggle with most? What can you do to upgrade your level of integrity? Becky Harling. Authentic. Passionate. Funny. Insightful. Becky is a frequent speaker at conferences, retreats, and other venues. She is the author of Who Do You Say I Am?, Rewriting Your Emotional Script, Freedom from Performing, The 30 Day Praise Challenge and The 30 Day Praise Challenge for Parents. Becky is married to Steve Harling and has four adult kids and five grandkids. Visit her website and blog. Graphic adapted, courtesy of qimono at Pixabay. Character Choices Legacy