Just a Little Bit More

In this affluent society, we’re always trying to add just a little bit more to our lives. More wealth. More stuff. More prestige. In this Thanksgiving Upgrade, Dawn Wilson encourages us to add a bit more gratitude.

Last summer, Sharon Jaynes wrote about I Thessalonians 5:18: Give thanks in all circumstances. “We read that verse and think it rather nice,” Sharon wrote, “So we slap a sloppy coat of thanksgiving on life and go about our day. In reality, most of us are thankful for very little.”

Instead of expressing gratitude, we complain. A lot.

I focused on not complaining this summer for one whole week. I didn’t think I was a natural complainer. I’ve since discovered everyone is. It’s that nasty sin nature rearing it’s head.

That’s why Paul instructs, “Do all things without murmurings (complaining) and disputings” (Philippians 2:14). Complaining devastated the the Israelites (Exodus 16:8; Numbers 11:1-4; Psalm 106:25; 1 Corinthians 10:10).

Complaining has many negative consequences. It messes up our relationships and conversations. It focuses on the negative, sees the worst, darkens our spirit and zaps our energy. Complaining increases stress; we just can’t seem to “release” our grumbling. Even when we complain just to ourselves, we are essentially making excuses for our lack of gratitude.

So I’ll admit it. I struggled with that week of “not complaining.” I was surprised how many complaints entered my mind in such a short period.

I found it extremely difficult to stop complaining. Until I started thanking.

Thanksgiving made the difference. I was allowing God to transform my thinking (Romans 12:2).

Gratitude is a choice, and it can root out an ungrateful, murmuring, complaining spirit. We’re not commanded in scripture to feel more grateful, but we are instructed to be thankful.

“Gratitude changes the lens through which we see circumstances in our little slice of time,” Sharon said. “Thanksgiving changes our perspective despite broken dreams, broken relationships, tumultuous circumstances and unfulfilled longings.”

Repeatedly in the Psalms, we observe David move from a place of depression or sharing his complaints with God to a better place. His perspective seems to change as he praises God or expresses gratitude:  

In Psalm 57, David complains that his soul “is in the midst of lions” (v. 4). His enemies are trying to destroy him. He’s in pretty bad shape, emotionally.

Yet in verses 9-11, what a turnaround!

“I will give thanks to you, O Lord, among the peoples; I will sing praises to you among the nations. For your steadfast love is great to the heavens, your faithfulness to the clouds. Be exalted, O God, above the heavens! Let your glory be over all the earth!”

We see this same turnaround in Psalm 42:10-11 and Psalm 62:3-7. David consistently moved from grumbling and all sorts of negative emotions to praise and gratitude.  

He chose a different perspective and got a different result. And in that change of attitude, God was honored and glorified.

Another thing I discovered in my week of no complaining. Even a little bit of gratitude makes a difference.

Like a stream of light through an opening door, gratitude diffuses the darkness of our grumbling.

It’s not slapping on “a sloppy coat of thanksgiving.” It’s getting honest with God about our needs, and then stopping to recognize God in the midst of our circumstances. To praise Him. To thank Him.

Think about the complaints you’ve made even this week. Can you add a bit more gratitude? Will you choose to thank God in your situation, even if you don’t feel thankful?

Dawn Wilson, founder and President of Heart Choices Ministries, is the creator of three blogs: Heart Choices Today, LOL with God (with Pam Farrel), and Upgrade with Dawn. She is the President of the San Diego chapter of Network of Evangelical Women in MInistry (NEWIM San Diego). Dawn is the co-author of LOL with God and contributed “The Blessing Basket” in It’s a God Thing. She and her husband Bob have two grown, married sons, three granddaughters and a rascally maltipoo, Roscoe.